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February 6, 2009

Maria’s Marriage Advice

Filed under: Blogroll, Interfaith, Islam, Marriage, Women — Tags: , , — mariahussain @ 7:26 pm

A friend of mine is planning on writing a book on marriage from the Islamic perspective so I put my 2 cents in:

Christians tend to fall in love and get married. They usually have a wonderful first year of marriage, and then it goes downhill. So, in order to rescue a marriage they have to remember why they fell in love in the first place, and practice having good manners and communication skills.

But for Muslims, the problem is that they tend to marry someone they hardly know. The first year of marriage is usually very hard. There is no period of happiness to look back on. Marriage is almost like a job. It’s worse than a job. The main focus seems to be on “tolerating” each other. Our approach should be to help Muslim couples learn to like each other hopefully before they get married.

I think also one of the hardest things in the Muslim world is because a lot of people are emotionally damaged from witnessing acts of violence or some emotional family trauma from the past. This can cause people to shut down and not really view others as human. So the wife becomes “that irritating woman” – the man is just a “dick with a wallet.” Once you label a person, then anything they do is seen through this distorted lens.

Probably a good approach would be to emphasize marriage as a path to spiritual awakening. The Prophet Mohammed (peace be upon him) said: “Marriage is half the faith.” Marriage can lead to joy but more importantly, the emotional maturation process that comes from gradually learning to detach from your ego.

Many people think it’s enough to just be married. You don’t have to learn how to love with your heart, or how to keep on giving and being just even when you don’t feel that loving. Muslim men sometimes think that love and true friendship is not a requirement of marriage, as long as they are paying the bills. They just shut down, and submit to an unhappy existence, trapped together due to societal expectations.

Marriage should be emphasized as a spiritual practice for learning to reduce ego attachment, a form of meditation and seeking God [dhikr]. When the relationship has problems, it is a mirror to help you discover your own inner self, your reactions and motivations, and to recover forgotten memories.

In Catholic churches, when they do pre-marital and marital counseling, what they do is ask questions that give you topics to discuss that help you understand each others’ feelings.

For me, the questions I would advise my kids to think about first and foremost before marriage:

Do you enjoy each others’ company? Do you laugh together? Does conversation come easily or with difficulty? Are you attracted to each other? When you are apart, can you feel the other thinking about you? Do you support each others’ plans, dreams and goals in life? Do you like talking about the same topics? Are there any activities that you both enjoy? Do you have the same expectations of the requirements of the wedding, marriage and family? Do you feel strongly about the other person’s bad habits? Does the other person admire or feel alienated by your strongest qualities? Are you hoping the other person is going to change after marriage or can you take them as they are? Will you still enjoy their company after they lost their good looks? When you are with them, do you find yourself toning down your true personality in order to seem more pleasing?

Other factors include language, culture and social class differences. Is the extended family going to give your spouse a hard time? If so – is it fair to expose them to this type of long term emotional abuse?

It’s important to find out ahead of time: Is he or she the kind of person that says everything they think as they are thinking it, or do they hold back information? Do they ask for their needs or wait for you to notice?

When I decided to leave my husband it was because he told me “I love you but I don’t like you.” I felt that if he couldn’t find anything about me to like after 5 years, we cannot stay together because there is nothing more insulting than someone just staying with you ‘for the sake of the kids’. I believe the dislike came from his tendency to label me negatively if he didn’t understand a behavior, rather than try to understand where I’m coming from. I was always just his “white lady.” He didn’t know how I am different from other white women. His main concern was that I should fit in with the other Muslim women. It turned out that I was holding him back from what he wanted to do with his life, namely fit in with the group, and he was holding me back from fulfilling my goals and dreams, which involves forging ahead of the group in order to work on solving the problems of the world.

In the end I realized that he did love me but the bottom line was he really just wanted to have sex with me. He didn’t actually have the strength to incorporate me into his life full time. He should have just made a private marriage with me if he was smart. It was the involvement of the family and community that destroyed the relationship. They told him that because he married me, that he had betrayed his people, and that kind of thing. He was filled with guilt and shame that people thought it was a “love marriage.” The truth was that I was not even attracted to him. I married him for religion.

I believe that in a successful marriage, “I” and “You” become “We.” The couple thinks as a team and feels as a team. There are probably some spiritual exercises that can help this happen. It’s really important to put “We” before the rest of the world. Otherwise every time you go out, the spouse becomes embarrassed of you. I remember my husband always judging me after a social occasion on the way home. “You talk too much, it’s humiliating.” or “Why didn’t you talk? You embarrass me.” Clearly he was determined to view me negatively no matter what I did.

If we had done a temporary marriage first, or if we simply had gone out for dinner like normal Americans, we may not even have had a second date. The truth was we didn’t have much to talk about. I would have found him too uptight and he would have found me too wild, and that would be the end. It was because we were trying to be so Islamic that we married a near stranger and went through so much pain learning that not everyone is compatible.

He took the time to take me out for fun somewhere finally, when I was threatening to divorce him – and it was really enlightening and almost amusing to realize how little he understood about me and how little he cared to share. After five years of marriage, we had no idea what to talk about other than politics or Dajjal (the Anti-Christ). We just didn’t find each other that interesting.

Before I was Muslim, I briefly dated an Indian Hindu man. What happened was he took me out to dinner a few times and he always sat like 5 feet away from me. He was very modest. I found him nice but I had no attraction to him. He had an experience though, which my husband unfortunately only had after I left him. When the Hindu man was visiting my home, which I shared with a friend, he saw my room. It was just a mattress on the floor, a rug for prayer and meditation, a brick that I used for a table that had some dried flower petals in a dish, and a small bookshelf. Something about glimpsing my private space made him say to me, “All the other people at work always say bad things about you but the truth is, you are the nicest person I have ever met in my life.”

He seemed like a sweet child who liked to give me presents. His mother found out he was seeing me, had a fit, and forced him to break up with me. I didn’t even consider him my boyfriend, to me he was like a friend. He came over crying and saying he couldn’t marry me. I was surprised because I had no idea he wanted to marry me. Truthfully if he had asked me, I would have gently but certainly told him no! I had no attraction to him whatsoever. True, I could have grown to love him because he was so nice, but I was not heartbroken – not even a little – that he couldn’t marry me. In fact I found the strange situation slightly funny though sad that he suffered for me. He actually quit his job where I also worked, because it was too painful for him to see me anymore.

I believe that with my first husband, had we gone out to dinner a few times before marriage, probably by the second date I really would have been clear that I didn’t want to marry him. OR, we might have had a chance to become good friends and got some inner glimpse of each others’ true selves, before trying to start a family. In which case the marriage would have had more team spirit because it would be based on admiration and respect for the inner person.

My ex-husband told me, after he got married to another woman, now he realizes what a kind and forgiving person I was. However, his elder sisters chose and approved her so I guess that weird family power trip is what matters most in their culture. And people call Islam a patriarchal society?

No regrets though. I learned a lot of things from the experience, healed in many ways and was wounded in many ways, felt things I never felt before and will never feel again. To every thing there is a season.

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January 23, 2009

Breastfeeding in Islam

Filed under: Blogroll, Interfaith, Islam, Women — mariahussain @ 12:44 am

The Importance Of Breastfeeding To The Muslim Child
By Maria Hussain
Islam Online, New Jersey

“The mothers shall give suck to their offspring for two whole years, if the father desires to complete the term. But he shall bear the cost of their food and clothing on equitable terms…If they both decide on weaning, by mutual consent, and after due consultation, there is no blame on them. If ye decide on a foster-mother for your offspring there is no blame on you, provided ye pay (her) what ye offered, on equitable terms. But fear Allah and know that Allah sees well what ye do.” (2:233)

Given the importance of breastfeeding in the Islamic religion, the low rates of compliance among Muslim women in North America are puzzling. Although a formal research study has not been conducted, it seems upon observation that the breastfeeding rate among Muslim women is actually lower than among the population at large. There are small pockets of “fundamentalist” Muslim women who are well educated and adamant about nursing their children under their chadors, and who often practice natural childbirth and home schooling. However, those mothers who nurse their babies past the age of one year are the exception rather than the rule. There seems to be a lighthearted attitude among the general Muslim populace towards the bottle-feeding of infants. It is not frowned upon, and it is rarely something people even question. Perhaps it is a lack of education about the benefits of breastfeeding, combined with an absence of a support network to assist the new mother. Perhaps it is a misunderstanding of the meaning of weaning.

Understood in the general sense, weaning means the gradual transfer from feeding the baby exclusively breast-milk to table foods only. This can happen sometime during the toddler period of life, usually between the ages of 1 and 3. Transferring the child to animal and vegetable foods before he even had any teeth, was not done by the early Muslims. The most likely option, if a mother declined to breastfeed her infant, was the employment of a wet-nurse for the child. For the newborn Muslim child, the intimate breastfeeding relationship is a right. It is beyond dispute that two full years of breast-milk provide a baby with long-term health benefits such as the prevention of ear infections and allergies, as well as providing a foundation of trust between mother and child. It has been proven that a bottle-fed baby will be a weaker child, and that breastfed babies often have higher IQ’s and are more emotionally well adjusted.

In Islamic terms, weaning is a process that is administered by mutual consent, with the full intention of both parents who have decided that this is the best thing for the family. But in my conversations with sisters in various states who had given up nursing in favor of bottle-feeding, the sense is a feeling of powerlessness over the situation. These mothers often wanted very much to nurse their child. But somehow, they lost their chance. This tragedy is largely caused by a hospital system that does little to promote exclusive breastfeeding of newborns. In most hospitals, the new mothers receive free samples of formula to take home. This is a result of multi-million dollar deals between hospitals and pharmaceutical companies who pay the doctors to promote their products. This practice is highly unethical because little or no education about the dangers of bottle-feeding the infant is given to the new mothers. Many Muslim mothers, especially those who don’t speak English well and therefore are not able to question the nurses, come home with their babies already addicted to the bottle. Although at this point, all is not yet beyond hope, coaxing a newborn child to breastfeed, after he has been bottle-fed even just once or twice, can be a big struggle. It may not succeed without the aid of a lactation counselor, because unfortunately, even the older generation of mothers and mothers-in-law lack the knowledge of how to breastfeed. Thus, the likelihood of bottle-feeding is very high among immigrant and minority women in the U.S.

So many women have given up nursing out of a feeling of powerlessness to get the baby to nurse. Because this is not a decision to wean, but rather the result of lack of adequate help, this situation cannot simply be dismissed under the heading, “there is no blame.” Something is terribly wrong when Muslim women are giving up breastfeeding due to lack of education, counseling, and support. It reveals a stripping away at the postnatal rights of the Muslim woman to be in a state of rest for 40 days after childbirth. It also points to a fundamental lack of self-esteem in the mothers, that already at the age of 4 days old, she is allowing the child to make important decisions that will hurt him, rather than taking command of the situation and turning it around. If the child is rejecting the breast, the most common reaction is to try for a while, and then give up and give him a bottle. This teaches him that all he has to do is fuss and refuse to nurse, and he will be rewarded by a free-flowing bottle of formula. The only solution to this power struggle is for the mother to practice a bit of “tough love,” to refuse to give the baby a bottle, even if it takes several hours for the baby to nurse willingly. (If the baby gets dehydrated, he can take water with a cup or medicine dropper). All this requires the support and help of the father and other family members, to allow the mother and child to be together undisturbed as much as possible for the first 40 days of the baby’s life.

Many Muslim women manage to make it through those hardest days in the beginning and then give up breastfeeding after the baby is less than 6 months old. The most common reason given is, “I was afraid I wasn’t producing enough milk.” At this point, a lactation advisor could have told her to increase her own consumption of calories and to get adequate rest. Under no circumstances should she give the baby a bottle because this will only decrease her supply of breast-milk. But it is so rare for Muslim women to seek advice further than their doctors, who often do not give adequate help. Sometimes it is actually the doctor’s advice to start feeding their babies solids at age 3 months that leads to problems. Only with independent research will a mother be able to compare the “fun” of spoon-feeding her infant versus the risks of premature rejection of the breast.

How can we help the Muslim women of today to understand that Allah has made her able to feed her baby with the milk of her body? She needs to read books about breastfeeding and understand fully the commitment she is facing. She needs encouragement to seek help from a LaLeche League Leader or midwife if she runs into problems getting help from her doctor. Help is available. Women who receive adequate counseling are often able to sustain nursing even after returning to work outside the home. Premature infants can and should be breastfeed for the best odds in life. In fact, women who have never even been pregnant can actually stimulate the production of breast-milk for a foster child through the use of a special infant feeding device. The ability to feed your child the best that nature has to offer is your choice. Only after a successful and long-lasting breastfeeding relationship can weaning the baby truly be done by mutual and conscious consent. It will not simply be a tragic mistake to look back on with regret.

To locate a breastfeeding consultant in your area, call 1-800-LA-LECHE

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October 17, 2008

What have we gained?

Filed under: American interests, Blogroll, Interfaith, Islam, Uncategorized, Women — Tags: , , , , , — mariahussain @ 2:49 am

Is it better now that the capitalist media “diversified” into showing more Black women’s bare legs instead of majority White women’s legs? So that Black girls too could become bullimic. In a way, one should realize that all of us are victimized by racial stereotypes and social behaviors in the media. Whites who never did anything to anyone grow up hating themselves for being white trash, blue-eyed devils, Nazis, blonde bimbos, slavers, the stereotypical heartless oppressor, etc leading to drug use and suicides. Media paints white people as to blame for all evil, especially white Christianity, which is responsible for the Crusades, and of course anti-semitism. White people cannot socially form groups in the way that all other ethnic groups are allowed to form groups. This has led to widespread homosexuality.

The only good person is a secular person who shops a great deal, according to the media. The bankers want all ethnic groups to hate themselves, to get self-destructively neurotic, and so be easy to manipulate against one another. The Jewish TV encourages white Christians to feel ashamed of their own culture and to intermarry with other ethnic groups, so that the Jewish elite will be the only ones with some kind of “lineage.”

Stereotypes aside, I think there are some real reasons for concern in Black America. I don’t really understand why it always seems to be white teachers and black students, almost like some kind of missionary system financed by the government. Don’t black people ever go into education? Maybe it’s just Boston, because we have so many upper class colleges, and so many of the graduates go on to try and “help the poor.”

I am very concerned about something I am noticing in the public school and that is autism. It seems to affect all races but I was alarmed to hear so many black mothers wondering if or being told that their child is autistic. The school has an entire wing dedicated to autistic children, while other autistic children are in the normal classroom with a support worker.

I can’t think of any reason for why black children would be experiencing high rates of autism except

– mothers not breastfeeding
– over-vaccination at young age
– false autism diagnoses due to some behavior problems caused by other factors

Both white women I know whose children are autistic were taking anti-psychotic medication during pregnancy.

The Pakistani child I know who is autistic comes from a family that seems to be very sensitive to vaccinations.

I am kind of worried about the nonchalance with which African American women return to work within days of giving birth. I also worry about the immigrant community’s over-reliance on bottle feeding. The ethnic group most likely to practice full time breastfeeding, natural birth, avoidance of vaccines and antibiotics, and “attachment parenting” is the Jewish.

All the white women I grew up as kids with as close friends are pushing forty and still no marriage or children. One of them got herself impregnate by two (different) black men but is raising her kids in a white lesbian couple.

By contrast, more black women seem to get pregnant young and think about career later. This seems to be connected to more grandmother and mother support within the family to raise the child of the unmarried woman. White women are expected to be economically self-sufficient and if they were to raise a child living with their parents it would be shameful.

White women are often shoved out of the family home as a burden to the family years before marriage. It does not appear that this type of (lack of) parenting exists in the black community, even in single parent homes.

Early pregnancy while single does lead to poverty though. So there ought to be some way of campaigning to women about saving themselves. That doesn’t mean don’t have sex. It just means get married to a guy with a job! Have some self-respect! And if you are really smart, then make him pay all your bills and refuse to get a job, even if it means you have to live in one room and share one bed.

Muslims need to develop the same kind of urgency that Jews feel about procreating themselves. We need to have as many children as possible and raise them to be the best kind of people out there. The world is trying to holocaust us.

January 21, 2008

Precinct by precinct, freedom is now

Filed under: American interests, Anti-Zionism, Blogroll, Interfaith, Islam, Uncategorized, Women — Tags: , , , , — mariahussain @ 2:18 am

Every candidate that is running for office right now, Democrat or Republican, except Ron Paul, has promised AIPAC to continue the US belligerent stance against Iran. Obama promised that he would continue to threaten to bomb Iran. Furthermore there is a good chance of US troops in Sudan, Pakistan, and other places. So if we care about the future of the planet our number one concern is to pull the plug on this system of funneling US taxpayer money into corporate subsidies that finance Israel’s wars.

Everybody disagrees with Ron Paul about something. Many left-leaning Democrats reject him because of his pro-life stance on abortion. Yet, Ron Paul is the only presidential candidate in your lifetime that has promised to bring home all troops from every US base that is not in the US. He has promised to cut off all foreign aid to Israel and the Muslim dictators. Did you hear that folks? He is offering you your freedom. He wants to phase out income taxes. The Prophet (pbuh) was also opposed to income taxes.

Ron Paul has taken a moderate stance on the immigration issue. He wants to help 60 million foreigners immigrate here legally. He is the only candidate that is opposed to home to home searches for illegal immigrants. He is realistic about the tax burden on society that is created by uncontrolled immigration. Some people think that you can’t be a nice person if you don’t want amnesty for all illegals. But if your neighbor lost her house and became homeless because of your coercive charity plan, was it worth it? Dr. Paul’s position is not a fixed position regarding immigration. He believes that in a good functioning economy people will be more tolerant of newcomers. He is the only presidential candidate that is not embarrassed to talk to Iran. He promised to lift the sanctions against Iran, Sudan, Libya, Cuba, etc. He is a fiscal conservative. Best of all, he has really good manners. He doesn’t act. He is humble and genuine. He is the only presidential candidate I trust to talk to Ahmedinejad or Bashir. He is in favor of a currency backed by gold or some other commodity. He will stop printing paper money. Isn’t that what we believe in?

Best of all he claims he will liberate thousands of non-violent prisoners his first day in office and give all the US detainees the right to a fair trial. He will shut down Guantanamo and repeal the Patriot Act. He doesn’t believe in “Islamofascism.” He calls this kind of speech war propaganda. There are so many deeply important things that Ron Paul is doing for the Muslims that we should be willing to give everything and do everything we can to be of service to this remarkable man. Don’t go by the official campaign ads; The official campaign flyers are geared towards a certain type of mainstream American consumer audience and don’t give you a good picture of the clarity and depth of Dr. Paul’s grasp on reality. http://www.ronpaullibrary.org/ has his articles and speeches and are a better indication of his thinking on the issues.

Ron Paul has 10 years of a voting record that shows he is the closest to a friend that we have in Washington. No other candidate, not even Kucinich, has promised to cut funding of Israel. If you are not registered to vote as either Unenrolled or Republican, you cannot vote in the primary anyway but you can still get involved with freeatlast2008.com. Hundreds of thousands of people are dying because of US interventionist policy. Ron Paul is the only candidate talking about non-intervention. That’s priceless.

Also keep in mind: As president he doesn’t have a lot of power to do much about the “controversial” issues like immigration and the gold standard because he’d have to get it through Congress. The only power he really has as president is commander-in-chief of the US military. He’d be authorized to end the US occupation of Iraq and Afghanistan etc. And he can pardon prisoners. Everything else has to go thru Congress. He’s a low-risk candidate to back, and by doing so you can tap into a VIBRANT peace movement! It’s not your usual leftist peace protest, it’s a socially conservative peace movement. That is so priceless.

It’s important to mention that there is currently a precinct by precinct coordinated attempt to reclaim American democracy from the special interest lobbies. It has been proven that all it takes is about 10-20 people per precinct to turn things around entirely. By hooking into the ronpaul.meetup.com network you would gain valuable contact with other Americans who support the Constitution.

Please watch http://youtube.com/watch?v=FG2PUZoukfA

In closing I want to urge you to give Dr. Paul a chance because the press combined with coordinated email attacks to smear Dr Paul as the scariest man imaginable is because of his refusal to continue funding for Israel’s wars. Nothing they say about him is true. Please note that the people who spearheaded the vicious anti-Paul campaign are the same group of people who always smear CAIR and our mosque. I would only go on like this about a course of action we must take together now, if I thought it were a life and death situation. And it is. We have to pull the US out of everywhere and the only way we can do that is by pulling the plug on war financially. Ron Paul plans to do that.

Martin Luther King Day Money Bomb – http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YA2AGnOOp3g

December 27, 2007

Wear a Condom for World Peace!

Filed under: American interests, Blogroll, Interfaith, Islam, Women — mariahussain @ 1:18 am

Glenn Greenwald went on for paragraph after paragraph in Salon Magazine http://www.salon.com/opinion/greenwald/2007/12/22/klein/index.html going on and on about why he still deserves to live even though he’s considering voting for a pro-life Republican, namely Dr. Ron Paul, for president.

It is stunning to me how many people would rather have an abortion than have world peace. It seems pretty selfish to me. But I guess that’s what having an abortion is all about. Men who don’t want to take responsibility for their offspring. It has absolutely nothing to do with women’s rights if you ask me, and I have always been female. It has to do with the assumption that women must earn a living or else they are a drain on society.

Glenn Greenwald wrote:

“There’s no question that abortion — whatever one’s views on it are — is a vital, even central issue of individual rights… But abortion isn’t the only important issue… of Paul’s candidacy.”

There are actually a lot of questions about what are the most vital issues concerning the individual rights of women, and how abortion fits into that picture. If you ask me, abortion is a distraction from the three fundamental rights of sexually active women.

Marriage – the promise of a man to provide for his offspring and fulfill the needs of his woman.

Dowry – a gift given from the man to the woman to legitimize his interest in her.

Maintenance – all expenses paid (food, clothing, shelter, medical care) for life.

In the ideal world, every woman should and would demand this from any man seeking to enjoy her. Abortion “on demand and without apology” destroys this ancient security net for women.

“If people who support a candidate with the wrong position on abortion (or gay rights) can be accused of being indifferent to the rights of women or gay people, then — by the same exact “reasoning” — those who end up supporting candidates who affirm America’s right to act as an imperial power or who want to continue many of Bush’s executive power abuses [as Hillary Clinton certainly does and as even Barack Obama and (to a lesser extent) John Edwards do] should be accused of being indifferent to constitutional liberties, the rule of law, and the lives of millions of innocent Muslims,” continues Greenwald.

I do not presume to know what the “right” position is on abortion. Neither does Ron Paul. He doesn’t let his personal feelings get in the way of the Constitution. He says leave it up to the state. There is no way New York Jews are ever going to criminalize abortion. So it’s a non-issue.

September 28, 2007

Why do Muslims hate feminists?

Filed under: Islam, Women — mariahussain @ 4:25 pm

Feminism is connected to the developments of critical thinking in the period 1930 – 1980 in France, England, and many other countries throughout the world. But Western feminism died in the 80s. In the 1980s many women realized if we want to “worship the Goddess,” and be like the Mother Earth we have to celebrate our fertility, we have to be true to our souls. We didn’t want to hurt our bodies with pharmaceutical chemicals to prevent what was natural from occurring. We just wanted motherhood to be a happy, emotionally safe learning experience. We wanted committed partnerships. We wanted to be surrounded by people who love us, not just fight to survive in the rat race. We would rather marry a man who would pay all the bills because we can. Feminists have written that marriage is a form of prostitution and thus degrading, but not all women agree with that viewpoint.

As a heterosexual woman, I admit to feeling occasionally marginalized by “progressives” just over this one word, because all these men and lesbians are telling me what I’m supposed to believe about myself as a female. I’m totally cool with being a woman. I don’t view it as an oppression. The only thing, is I view the life transaction as a series of rights AND responsibilities.

The “feminist” label alienates many many women I know. Mainstream Muslim women are totally offended by feminists. When a German woman I know told an Iranian woman I know that she chose not to have children because she had too many emotional issues with her mother, the Iranian woman was so offended she would never speak to her again or look at her. “I love my children,” she insisted to me. “When they were babies and they fell asleep in my arms, I just held them and watched them sleep.”

Many of the Muslim American women you’ll find at the mosque view life as a competition to see who can have the most children. The ones who had a bad birth experience will typically avoid having more kids after that, but in those cases it is out of a sense of emotional trauma, not because they had planned or wanted to limit their reproduction. [A lot better education about how to have a safe and enjoyable birth needs to be made available to more women, including most American women.]

The idea of earning their own income would be something they’d resist, and would normally do so only if widowed, but even then would rather rely financially on a brother. Those who are college educated and earn a separate income still make their husbands pay all the bills. Some Muslim women stubbornly refuse to learn to drive a car in order to manipulate their husband into doing all the errands and grocery shopping. Another way they express their refusal to get a job is by putting on niqab (the face veil). They view this female chauvenist lifestyle as a right. In Muslim countries it’s the women not the men pushing the movement to dress like the Virgin Mary (for obvious reasons). The burqa is their way of saying to men, “You will NOT disrespect me.

One of the first things the US did after they set up their military bases in Pakistan was to push the media to publish images of semi-nude women. When western colonists try to convince Muslim women of their feminist ideology, the women view it as an imposition, and they protest against it with signs that say, “My hijab is my honor.” There are tens of thousands of Muslim women in America who feel this way. There are tens of millions of Christian, Jewish and secular women who agree with them on at least one point.

When I think of feminists, like most Muslims I have come across, we think of Zionist collaborators; Irshad Manji, Nonie Darwish, Ayan Hirsi, and these other neocon novelists who write ridiculous and uneducated anti-Islam “tell all” books that are so absurd that only a fool could take them seriously. These intellectual prostitutes are working for the group of people that includes Robert Spencer, David Horowitz, Charles Jacobs and all those racist clowns. Ayan Hirsi, an upper class Somali Muslim got elected into parliamentary office in the Netherlands by dumping on Muslims. Her willingness to fabricate entertaining stories for neocon audiences and tell them what they want to hear got her offered a job by the American Enterprise Institute.

When an Asian woman or an Arab woman or an African woman says she is a feminist, in the eyes of many many women and men I have known, it means to them that she has become westernized. Her brain has been colonized. She has made herself “non-scary” to liberals. She has sex without marriage. That is what “feminist” means to Muslims essentially. It’s almost an obscenity. Feminism is connected in their minds with the Oppressor class of Harvard educated ruling families that control so many countries in the world, embezzling money, drinking wine with white people, engaging in Freemasonry and planning their wars on the innocent. That is how they speak of them and how they think of them.

Western liberals need someone to “explain” Islam to them because they view Islamic society through an Orientalist lens that assumes that the Westerners are both intellectually and ethically superior to Easterners. They hear what they want to hear and show disrespect to the image that they have projected upon a person like Ahmedinejad. When he said, “In Iran we don’t have homosexuality like you,” he was mocked as having said, “In Iran we don’t have homosexuals.” Because of prejudice, Orientalists cannot respect the fact that in other cultures, open promiscuity, whether homosexual or heterosexual is simply not tolerated.

I might add that although the public hangings in Iran make westerners squeamish, especially when they are for sex crimes, what we have to understand is that Iran is a democracy. Rapists, sodomizers, hookers and smugglers get hanged because the public demands it. The leadership is doing what the majority of the population wants. If someone is a rapist or a murderer it is a financial drain on society to keep him locked up in prison, feeding and clothing him for the rest of his life. Execution is how Iranian society chooses to deal with those they feel are destroying the fabric of their society. It is not the result of a heartless dictatorship. Not to mention, Iran executes a lot fewer people than the United States.

I asked the gentle Iranian woman who loved her babies so much about the execution of Communists in Iran and she said without hesitation, like this was the mainstream point of view in Iran, “They should be killed. They are the enemies of God.”

I personally don’t quite understand it but crowds of people in more than one Muslim country will typically yell, “Kill him! Die! Die!” while watching a public hanging. For better or for worse, they vent their aggression at the criminals of their own society, instead of venting their aggression at competing ethnic groups or by bombing other countries like liberal westerners do.

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