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February 10, 2009

Maria on Domestic Abuse

Filed under: Islam, Marriage — mariahussain @ 12:20 am

Not to step on anyone’s toes but I must also point out that women are also the problem. Lack of self esteem in women more precisely. There are varying types of abuse: emotional abuse, emotional neglect, physical neglect, and physical abuse. A person is more able to tolerate that which she has been exposed to in her childhood. Each woman has to decide what she, personally, can tolerate and where is the line. If her husband crosses that line, she must pack up her things, take her kids, go somewhere safe, and contact a lawyer. Credit card checks come in handy until you can get a hold of your father. Don’t waste your time with “free legal advice” or “women’s empowerment organizations.” You need to get a lawyer and file for child support the day you leave. Go to priceline.com and bid for a hotel room at 1/3 the price. If God gives you the permission to leave (you must pray istikhara), you should go. If you don’t, you risk being guilty of not protecting your children from negative influences. It could only take one night with you gone for him to wake up. It is definitely worth a try, in order to save your marriage and family.

It doesn’t have to be physical abuse. If a mother is living in a situation where her husband disrespects or belittles her as a general attitude, the children will not be able to respect her and obey her and she will not be able to guide them. If she values her role as a mother on this earth, she needs to either firmly insist that her husband be “on her side” or else get out of there quick. She should trust Allah for the sustainence. You cannot allow anyone to disrespect you in front of your children. Your children are more important than your marriage. She can find another man who is not corrupt.

If a woman truly loves her husband, but he has some emotional maturity issues, she still has to separate from him from for the sake of the kids. Usually, within five years, a man will begin to miss his wife and realize what a schmuck he was. It can take time. But if she doesn’t go, then she’s giving him the permission to act that way and the children will not be raised in an emotionally secure atmosphere, and this will result in permanent damage.

It is totally possible for a single woman or a remarried woman to raise her kids in an emotionally secure environment. It’s just a matter of making that your priority.

The biggest fear is the fear of change. That is a lack of faith in Allah. Life is a journey and the secret to a long life is knowing when it’s time to go. In this day of global communication you can find a new husband within two weeks. I know women with diseases who are not even good looking who find new husbands. All you have to do is be available.

Even if you were to simply stand by the side of the road with your children asking for a ride from a stranger, I guarantee God is going to send you an angel to help you. This is your life and your soul. You can’t answer for him. The mother is responsible to protect the children and that includes not allowing them to witness her being diminished by others.

February 6, 2009

Maria’s Marriage Advice

Filed under: Blogroll, Interfaith, Islam, Marriage, Women — Tags: , , — mariahussain @ 7:26 pm

A friend of mine is planning on writing a book on marriage from the Islamic perspective so I put my 2 cents in:

Christians tend to fall in love and get married. They usually have a wonderful first year of marriage, and then it goes downhill. So, in order to rescue a marriage they have to remember why they fell in love in the first place, and practice having good manners and communication skills.

But for Muslims, the problem is that they tend to marry someone they hardly know. The first year of marriage is usually very hard. There is no period of happiness to look back on. Marriage is almost like a job. It’s worse than a job. The main focus seems to be on “tolerating” each other. Our approach should be to help Muslim couples learn to like each other hopefully before they get married.

I think also one of the hardest things in the Muslim world is because a lot of people are emotionally damaged from witnessing acts of violence or some emotional family trauma from the past. This can cause people to shut down and not really view others as human. So the wife becomes “that irritating woman” – the man is just a “dick with a wallet.” Once you label a person, then anything they do is seen through this distorted lens.

Probably a good approach would be to emphasize marriage as a path to spiritual awakening. The Prophet Mohammed (peace be upon him) said: “Marriage is half the faith.” Marriage can lead to joy but more importantly, the emotional maturation process that comes from gradually learning to detach from your ego.

Many people think it’s enough to just be married. You don’t have to learn how to love with your heart, or how to keep on giving and being just even when you don’t feel that loving. Muslim men sometimes think that love and true friendship is not a requirement of marriage, as long as they are paying the bills. They just shut down, and submit to an unhappy existence, trapped together due to societal expectations.

Marriage should be emphasized as a spiritual practice for learning to reduce ego attachment, a form of meditation and seeking God [dhikr]. When the relationship has problems, it is a mirror to help you discover your own inner self, your reactions and motivations, and to recover forgotten memories.

In Catholic churches, when they do pre-marital and marital counseling, what they do is ask questions that give you topics to discuss that help you understand each others’ feelings.

For me, the questions I would advise my kids to think about first and foremost before marriage:

Do you enjoy each others’ company? Do you laugh together? Does conversation come easily or with difficulty? Are you attracted to each other? When you are apart, can you feel the other thinking about you? Do you support each others’ plans, dreams and goals in life? Do you like talking about the same topics? Are there any activities that you both enjoy? Do you have the same expectations of the requirements of the wedding, marriage and family? Do you feel strongly about the other person’s bad habits? Does the other person admire or feel alienated by your strongest qualities? Are you hoping the other person is going to change after marriage or can you take them as they are? Will you still enjoy their company after they lost their good looks? When you are with them, do you find yourself toning down your true personality in order to seem more pleasing?

Other factors include language, culture and social class differences. Is the extended family going to give your spouse a hard time? If so – is it fair to expose them to this type of long term emotional abuse?

It’s important to find out ahead of time: Is he or she the kind of person that says everything they think as they are thinking it, or do they hold back information? Do they ask for their needs or wait for you to notice?

When I decided to leave my husband it was because he told me “I love you but I don’t like you.” I felt that if he couldn’t find anything about me to like after 5 years, we cannot stay together because there is nothing more insulting than someone just staying with you ‘for the sake of the kids’. I believe the dislike came from his tendency to label me negatively if he didn’t understand a behavior, rather than try to understand where I’m coming from. I was always just his “white lady.” He didn’t know how I am different from other white women. His main concern was that I should fit in with the other Muslim women. It turned out that I was holding him back from what he wanted to do with his life, namely fit in with the group, and he was holding me back from fulfilling my goals and dreams, which involves forging ahead of the group in order to work on solving the problems of the world.

In the end I realized that he did love me but the bottom line was he really just wanted to have sex with me. He didn’t actually have the strength to incorporate me into his life full time. He should have just made a private marriage with me if he was smart. It was the involvement of the family and community that destroyed the relationship. They told him that because he married me, that he had betrayed his people, and that kind of thing. He was filled with guilt and shame that people thought it was a “love marriage.” The truth was that I was not even attracted to him. I married him for religion.

I believe that in a successful marriage, “I” and “You” become “We.” The couple thinks as a team and feels as a team. There are probably some spiritual exercises that can help this happen. It’s really important to put “We” before the rest of the world. Otherwise every time you go out, the spouse becomes embarrassed of you. I remember my husband always judging me after a social occasion on the way home. “You talk too much, it’s humiliating.” or “Why didn’t you talk? You embarrass me.” Clearly he was determined to view me negatively no matter what I did.

If we had done a temporary marriage first, or if we simply had gone out for dinner like normal Americans, we may not even have had a second date. The truth was we didn’t have much to talk about. I would have found him too uptight and he would have found me too wild, and that would be the end. It was because we were trying to be so Islamic that we married a near stranger and went through so much pain learning that not everyone is compatible.

He took the time to take me out for fun somewhere finally, when I was threatening to divorce him – and it was really enlightening and almost amusing to realize how little he understood about me and how little he cared to share. After five years of marriage, we had no idea what to talk about other than politics or Dajjal (the Anti-Christ). We just didn’t find each other that interesting.

Before I was Muslim, I briefly dated an Indian Hindu man. What happened was he took me out to dinner a few times and he always sat like 5 feet away from me. He was very modest. I found him nice but I had no attraction to him. He had an experience though, which my husband unfortunately only had after I left him. When the Hindu man was visiting my home, which I shared with a friend, he saw my room. It was just a mattress on the floor, a rug for prayer and meditation, a brick that I used for a table that had some dried flower petals in a dish, and a small bookshelf. Something about glimpsing my private space made him say to me, “All the other people at work always say bad things about you but the truth is, you are the nicest person I have ever met in my life.”

He seemed like a sweet child who liked to give me presents. His mother found out he was seeing me, had a fit, and forced him to break up with me. I didn’t even consider him my boyfriend, to me he was like a friend. He came over crying and saying he couldn’t marry me. I was surprised because I had no idea he wanted to marry me. Truthfully if he had asked me, I would have gently but certainly told him no! I had no attraction to him whatsoever. True, I could have grown to love him because he was so nice, but I was not heartbroken – not even a little – that he couldn’t marry me. In fact I found the strange situation slightly funny though sad that he suffered for me. He actually quit his job where I also worked, because it was too painful for him to see me anymore.

I believe that with my first husband, had we gone out to dinner a few times before marriage, probably by the second date I really would have been clear that I didn’t want to marry him. OR, we might have had a chance to become good friends and got some inner glimpse of each others’ true selves, before trying to start a family. In which case the marriage would have had more team spirit because it would be based on admiration and respect for the inner person.

My ex-husband told me, after he got married to another woman, now he realizes what a kind and forgiving person I was. However, his elder sisters chose and approved her so I guess that weird family power trip is what matters most in their culture. And people call Islam a patriarchal society?

No regrets though. I learned a lot of things from the experience, healed in many ways and was wounded in many ways, felt things I never felt before and will never feel again. To every thing there is a season.

January 24, 2009

Letter to a Jewish friend

Filed under: Blogroll — mariahussain @ 1:13 am

Dear Eve,

Sorry for the delayed response. It’s hard to focus with the kids about, and often by evening my brain is mush.

It wasn’t clear from your communications where you stand, but my life was utterly wrecked by your mass murder spree over Christmas. I say “Your” because you have Chosen to identify with the mass murderer, even though it would be better for your soul if you did not. So, although it’s easier on you apparently, but many of us were so disturbed by Israel’s crimes that we canceled all our engagements for a week or two, in order to cope with the trauma. So obviously, I don’t feel very much like dealing with Jews now, especially one who expresses no shame, remorse or repentance over Israel and Zionism. I actually find your dismissive attitude absolutely outrageous and criminal in its wickedness.

And I admit I was still bowled over by the pleasant tone your first communication, despite the fact that you were engaging in a shameless display of racism and utter contempt for human life, lost in the illusions of ethnic narcissism. Don’t take this personally because I’ve always found you to be a friendly person, but the Palestinian babies you just fried are worth only half a sentence? Do you have any idea how much you have hurt people with this level of indifference? Do you realize how much you hurt people with your casual indifference? Shouldn’t you be traumatized as we are? If I belonged to a Zionist organization, I’d be pulling out chunks of hair and sobbing awake my nights. I’d certainly be renouncing my connection to Israel by now, contemplating suicide and possibly homicide… Why aren’t you? I have to admit that you come across as someone deeply, deeply evil. If I were you I’d be doing everything I can to stop Israel.

I take Jewish genocidalism very seriously because it’s happening right in front of me. I am dedicated to studying the Jewish behaviors that result in genocide and the defense of genocide. I don’t view the Iraq and Afghan and possible Iran wars as separate wars. There are some Jews who do get out of the enmeshment in Zionist genocidalist ideology, but it is very very hard. You disapprove of how Israel is behaving. Israel is not a child coloring on the walls. Israel is a violent international organized crime network that exists on extortion and genocide. All Jews who value human life should be rushing to pull the plug on Israel. But instead …? You are brushing off your old Jewish Advocacy training skills? And I can tell you are a little rusty. Living in Ann Arbor makes a person lazy. People are so afraid to question Jewish racism.

The 1000 years of unique Jewish pain leading up to the holocaust is standard Jewish Zionist religious doctrine, and is about as historically accurate as Moses parting the Red Sea. This dogmatic nonsense serves to shield Jews from their crimes and gives Jews a unique sense of entitlement to”rights” that no one else has. You also demonstrate serious indoctrination with your deeply rooted knee jerk reactions to protect a world view that grants you privilege.

I’ve been keeping tabs on Israeli atrocities, which are daily, for 20 years. I saw how American Jews came up with lawsuits depriving people in the US of their Constitutional liberties for 20 years. The Jenin Massacre changed my life forever as that was when the true ugly face of Jews came out in America, with their support for Israel while Israel is preventing the rescue of people buried under the rubble of their own homes. Palestinians had no machinery to dig out their relatives from the rubble, and those who tried the impossible task of removing the rubble with their bare hands were shot. The people under the rubble talked with their families with their cell phones until the batteries ran out. The world watched and waited in total and utter terrified despair. All Americans who tried to talk to a Jew during those days is still suffering from the stress. What emotional manipulations! What deceit! What arrogance! To justify burying people alive!

Every one of those children that died under Israel’s assault over New Years was my child. So people like you, that participate in the support of Israel’s existence, is someone I view as having murdered my children in my arms.

I have watched the Jewish community come together to fight against divestment from Israel. They truly had no sense of shame, nor any seeming loyalty to the United States taxpayer. The charade that Jews play, where they act like it’s unfair to discuss how Jews support Israel when atrocities are involved, was exposed as a hoax by the Liberal-Neocon campaign waged through the JCRC, because as soon as cutting off funding to Israel is involved, then all the Jewish sicko racists crawl out of the woodwork “supporting Israel’s right to exist” at our expense. And I mean, they are passionate about making Americans pay for their criminal activities. The mayor and governor even got a free trip to Israel funded by the AJC. I am sorry but I imagine you could have been one of those awful, hateful Jews “standing with Israel.”

So that’s where I am now. I admit I have not yet read your letters because I don’t deal well with genocidal racists. Zionists make me very nervous. My grandfather was tortured to death in a prison camp during WWII and I have inherited the trauma. I really cannot deal with people who can mass murder families in their homes, or torture prisoners, for any reason. I am dedicated to stopping the evil that Israel is, and that begins by stopping the idea that Jews are people you can’t discuss. I break the taboo for the sake of God, and humanity. Israel must be stopped.

I will read your stuff. I just need my husband to be with me when I read it. As I mentioned, genocidal racists really freak me out, and anyone who thinks Israel has a “right” to “exist” is by definition a killer and a genocidal racist freak.

Best,

Maria

January 23, 2009

Breastfeeding in Islam

Filed under: Blogroll, Interfaith, Islam, Women — mariahussain @ 12:44 am

The Importance Of Breastfeeding To The Muslim Child
By Maria Hussain
Islam Online, New Jersey

“The mothers shall give suck to their offspring for two whole years, if the father desires to complete the term. But he shall bear the cost of their food and clothing on equitable terms…If they both decide on weaning, by mutual consent, and after due consultation, there is no blame on them. If ye decide on a foster-mother for your offspring there is no blame on you, provided ye pay (her) what ye offered, on equitable terms. But fear Allah and know that Allah sees well what ye do.” (2:233)

Given the importance of breastfeeding in the Islamic religion, the low rates of compliance among Muslim women in North America are puzzling. Although a formal research study has not been conducted, it seems upon observation that the breastfeeding rate among Muslim women is actually lower than among the population at large. There are small pockets of “fundamentalist” Muslim women who are well educated and adamant about nursing their children under their chadors, and who often practice natural childbirth and home schooling. However, those mothers who nurse their babies past the age of one year are the exception rather than the rule. There seems to be a lighthearted attitude among the general Muslim populace towards the bottle-feeding of infants. It is not frowned upon, and it is rarely something people even question. Perhaps it is a lack of education about the benefits of breastfeeding, combined with an absence of a support network to assist the new mother. Perhaps it is a misunderstanding of the meaning of weaning.

Understood in the general sense, weaning means the gradual transfer from feeding the baby exclusively breast-milk to table foods only. This can happen sometime during the toddler period of life, usually between the ages of 1 and 3. Transferring the child to animal and vegetable foods before he even had any teeth, was not done by the early Muslims. The most likely option, if a mother declined to breastfeed her infant, was the employment of a wet-nurse for the child. For the newborn Muslim child, the intimate breastfeeding relationship is a right. It is beyond dispute that two full years of breast-milk provide a baby with long-term health benefits such as the prevention of ear infections and allergies, as well as providing a foundation of trust between mother and child. It has been proven that a bottle-fed baby will be a weaker child, and that breastfed babies often have higher IQ’s and are more emotionally well adjusted.

In Islamic terms, weaning is a process that is administered by mutual consent, with the full intention of both parents who have decided that this is the best thing for the family. But in my conversations with sisters in various states who had given up nursing in favor of bottle-feeding, the sense is a feeling of powerlessness over the situation. These mothers often wanted very much to nurse their child. But somehow, they lost their chance. This tragedy is largely caused by a hospital system that does little to promote exclusive breastfeeding of newborns. In most hospitals, the new mothers receive free samples of formula to take home. This is a result of multi-million dollar deals between hospitals and pharmaceutical companies who pay the doctors to promote their products. This practice is highly unethical because little or no education about the dangers of bottle-feeding the infant is given to the new mothers. Many Muslim mothers, especially those who don’t speak English well and therefore are not able to question the nurses, come home with their babies already addicted to the bottle. Although at this point, all is not yet beyond hope, coaxing a newborn child to breastfeed, after he has been bottle-fed even just once or twice, can be a big struggle. It may not succeed without the aid of a lactation counselor, because unfortunately, even the older generation of mothers and mothers-in-law lack the knowledge of how to breastfeed. Thus, the likelihood of bottle-feeding is very high among immigrant and minority women in the U.S.

So many women have given up nursing out of a feeling of powerlessness to get the baby to nurse. Because this is not a decision to wean, but rather the result of lack of adequate help, this situation cannot simply be dismissed under the heading, “there is no blame.” Something is terribly wrong when Muslim women are giving up breastfeeding due to lack of education, counseling, and support. It reveals a stripping away at the postnatal rights of the Muslim woman to be in a state of rest for 40 days after childbirth. It also points to a fundamental lack of self-esteem in the mothers, that already at the age of 4 days old, she is allowing the child to make important decisions that will hurt him, rather than taking command of the situation and turning it around. If the child is rejecting the breast, the most common reaction is to try for a while, and then give up and give him a bottle. This teaches him that all he has to do is fuss and refuse to nurse, and he will be rewarded by a free-flowing bottle of formula. The only solution to this power struggle is for the mother to practice a bit of “tough love,” to refuse to give the baby a bottle, even if it takes several hours for the baby to nurse willingly. (If the baby gets dehydrated, he can take water with a cup or medicine dropper). All this requires the support and help of the father and other family members, to allow the mother and child to be together undisturbed as much as possible for the first 40 days of the baby’s life.

Many Muslim women manage to make it through those hardest days in the beginning and then give up breastfeeding after the baby is less than 6 months old. The most common reason given is, “I was afraid I wasn’t producing enough milk.” At this point, a lactation advisor could have told her to increase her own consumption of calories and to get adequate rest. Under no circumstances should she give the baby a bottle because this will only decrease her supply of breast-milk. But it is so rare for Muslim women to seek advice further than their doctors, who often do not give adequate help. Sometimes it is actually the doctor’s advice to start feeding their babies solids at age 3 months that leads to problems. Only with independent research will a mother be able to compare the “fun” of spoon-feeding her infant versus the risks of premature rejection of the breast.

How can we help the Muslim women of today to understand that Allah has made her able to feed her baby with the milk of her body? She needs to read books about breastfeeding and understand fully the commitment she is facing. She needs encouragement to seek help from a LaLeche League Leader or midwife if she runs into problems getting help from her doctor. Help is available. Women who receive adequate counseling are often able to sustain nursing even after returning to work outside the home. Premature infants can and should be breastfeed for the best odds in life. In fact, women who have never even been pregnant can actually stimulate the production of breast-milk for a foster child through the use of a special infant feeding device. The ability to feed your child the best that nature has to offer is your choice. Only after a successful and long-lasting breastfeeding relationship can weaning the baby truly be done by mutual and conscious consent. It will not simply be a tragic mistake to look back on with regret.

To locate a breastfeeding consultant in your area, call 1-800-LA-LECHE

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November 25, 2008

Holy Land Foundation: Devastation of Justice

Filed under: American interests, Anti-Zionism, Blogroll, Interfaith, Islam, Zionism — mariahussain @ 8:49 pm

Concerned Americans are in a state of grief. We all hoped for justice for the Holy Land Foundation from a trial by jury. But Americans are getting meaner and more absurd by the second, confused by Zionist media propaganda and bigotry. Goethe said, “There is no evil greater than wilful ignorance,” clearing up the question of whether they are stupid or evil. People don’t want to know.

And if they did know, so what. We’d just have a lot more depressed people in America.

Muslims blew it since 9/11 with all their interfaith dinners and “progressivism” and “isolating extremists” to make heir new Jewish friends happy and get rid of the Muslims who mention Palestine. You make friends with the devil it doesn’t mean the devil is going to protect you. Muslims make the mistake of thinking that just because Jews got to know you, therefore they wouldn’t hurt you. They would. Their friendship with you is entirely manipulative. I’m not talking about individuals I’m talking about these interfaith events. Muslims have been so busy trying to “understand” their Jewish Zionist neighbors that they allowed the Jewish leaders to step up its war on Islam.

And they are not done yet. Just last week another US citizen of Arab descent was kidnapped in Dubai by the US.

You would think that Americans are getting tired of all this detaining and torturing business but they are not! Not even the general public is ready to call it a day. We are dealing with psychopathic killers and that includes most Amercans. Because even if they didn’t themselves do the crime, they justified it in their minds and enabled it.

There is a very clear way to get rid of the Zionists and it probably at this point won’t work through education. Rather, we need to counter-manipulate. Steer the stupid meanness of Americans towards a more appropriate target. If they want to call you a terrorist, call them a traitor. Give it back to them. Bigots hate Muslims and Jews equally but there is a lot more money to be made by seizing the assets of Jewish billionares than by waging wars abroad.

Muslims need to wake up and realize that there is a war here, and just because you were proven innocent doesn’t mean they are not going to lock you up for life, and in any case devalue everything you’ve worked so hard to become.

Muslims need to abandon the left-wing protest agenda and start agitating on the basis of the Constitution, something all Americans even stupid ones say they agree with. Muslim Americans have not been demanding equal protection under the law aggressively enough.

The Muslims that were suing the David Project should never have dropped their lawsuit. They could have saved so many lives by using the lawsuit to continue getting more evidence of conspiracy with Steven Emerson and friends. But all they wanted to do was finish building their mosque. This is empty Islam. True, they were running out of money. They have millons of dollars in debts from even that partial lawsuit.

But Jews have found a way to make money from political persecution (real or imagined) while Muslims have not realized the great benefits of rallying around the “we are threatened” cause in order to turn money into more money.

There are so many things we can do that are proactive and I hope this wake up call will help Muslims get focused.

They have to give up the nepotism. They have to just understand that they are innocent and get over the hurt about “How could those people do this to us for no good reason?” The reason the Jews want to destroy Muslims is because Muslims could replace their social status group quite easily. We are more educated, more emotionally stable, and we outnumber them. All we need now is the self esteem and some personal, business, and political connections with people outside our immediate social network.

It’s important that the Muslim Students’ Association be funded, strengthened and guided by knowledgable elders. The students are the most potentially powerful group of Muslims in America because they have so many chapters and are all electronically linked. Only the Jews have networks like that. The fake Save Darfur story was marketed top-down through synagogues and student groups. Muslims could use a similar marketing strategy to promote something good and truthful and bring peace to America.

If we don’t take the steering wheel away from these madman, they will crash our world and it will be our fault because we were the only ones awake at the time.

October 17, 2008

What have we gained?

Filed under: American interests, Blogroll, Interfaith, Islam, Uncategorized, Women — Tags: , , , , , — mariahussain @ 2:49 am

Is it better now that the capitalist media “diversified” into showing more Black women’s bare legs instead of majority White women’s legs? So that Black girls too could become bullimic. In a way, one should realize that all of us are victimized by racial stereotypes and social behaviors in the media. Whites who never did anything to anyone grow up hating themselves for being white trash, blue-eyed devils, Nazis, blonde bimbos, slavers, the stereotypical heartless oppressor, etc leading to drug use and suicides. Media paints white people as to blame for all evil, especially white Christianity, which is responsible for the Crusades, and of course anti-semitism. White people cannot socially form groups in the way that all other ethnic groups are allowed to form groups. This has led to widespread homosexuality.

The only good person is a secular person who shops a great deal, according to the media. The bankers want all ethnic groups to hate themselves, to get self-destructively neurotic, and so be easy to manipulate against one another. The Jewish TV encourages white Christians to feel ashamed of their own culture and to intermarry with other ethnic groups, so that the Jewish elite will be the only ones with some kind of “lineage.”

Stereotypes aside, I think there are some real reasons for concern in Black America. I don’t really understand why it always seems to be white teachers and black students, almost like some kind of missionary system financed by the government. Don’t black people ever go into education? Maybe it’s just Boston, because we have so many upper class colleges, and so many of the graduates go on to try and “help the poor.”

I am very concerned about something I am noticing in the public school and that is autism. It seems to affect all races but I was alarmed to hear so many black mothers wondering if or being told that their child is autistic. The school has an entire wing dedicated to autistic children, while other autistic children are in the normal classroom with a support worker.

I can’t think of any reason for why black children would be experiencing high rates of autism except

– mothers not breastfeeding
– over-vaccination at young age
– false autism diagnoses due to some behavior problems caused by other factors

Both white women I know whose children are autistic were taking anti-psychotic medication during pregnancy.

The Pakistani child I know who is autistic comes from a family that seems to be very sensitive to vaccinations.

I am kind of worried about the nonchalance with which African American women return to work within days of giving birth. I also worry about the immigrant community’s over-reliance on bottle feeding. The ethnic group most likely to practice full time breastfeeding, natural birth, avoidance of vaccines and antibiotics, and “attachment parenting” is the Jewish.

All the white women I grew up as kids with as close friends are pushing forty and still no marriage or children. One of them got herself impregnate by two (different) black men but is raising her kids in a white lesbian couple.

By contrast, more black women seem to get pregnant young and think about career later. This seems to be connected to more grandmother and mother support within the family to raise the child of the unmarried woman. White women are expected to be economically self-sufficient and if they were to raise a child living with their parents it would be shameful.

White women are often shoved out of the family home as a burden to the family years before marriage. It does not appear that this type of (lack of) parenting exists in the black community, even in single parent homes.

Early pregnancy while single does lead to poverty though. So there ought to be some way of campaigning to women about saving themselves. That doesn’t mean don’t have sex. It just means get married to a guy with a job! Have some self-respect! And if you are really smart, then make him pay all your bills and refuse to get a job, even if it means you have to live in one room and share one bed.

Muslims need to develop the same kind of urgency that Jews feel about procreating themselves. We need to have as many children as possible and raise them to be the best kind of people out there. The world is trying to holocaust us.

September 29, 2008

Obsession: Delusional

Filed under: Blogroll, Islam, Zionism — mariahussain @ 4:00 pm

My husband and I just watched Obsession: Radical Islam’s War Against the West last night, the free DVD the Zionists are distributing. Agents of the anti-Constitution activist and Polish immigrant, Charles Jacobs, were giving it away outside an award ceremony for the torture advocate, Alan Dershowitz that was given by the treasonous David Project front organization, “Christians and Jews United for Israel” last week in Boston.

I was expecting something frightening and awful. Instead I was astonished by how dumb and boring this DVD was. Utterly unconvincing. You’d think with a budget of more than $29 million for production and distribution they could have come up with something better than that. The main pundit was Daniel Pipes, who actually LOOKS like Satan. He even seemed to have plucked his eyebrows to make them arch in a more satanic way. The other speakers were all old, ugly lumps. Wistrich had rosacea on his face so bad that it was covered with red blotches. I wondered why they didn’t put makeup on him. It really undermined my belief that Jews understand psychology.

Clearly, only a really stupid person could even be convinced by all these spliced-together snippets of partial sentences, but if they were trying to keep the attention of stupid people they needed some bimbo with big boobs or something. Instead, they had like 20 minutes of Hitler footage. I found myself wandering away from the TV to get a snack or use the bathroom it was so dull. They couldn’t even get Irshad Manji or anyone under 60 to participate in this film. They did get Nonie Darwish, who was probably the most offensive in terms of her dishonest speech and who looks like an overweight female version of Ronald Reagan. But the entire DVD was just going back and forth between these mutant commentators and long-discredited MEMRI translations of speeches given by Islamic preachers that no one has ever heard of.

They really didn’t even try to make a good film. I’m sure they could have found some young Muslim to say he felt uncomfortable with Shariah or some girl saying she hates wearing the hijab, but they didn’t even interview one single Muslim except the usual neocon token Muslims that appear at every Jewish event, like the fake PLO ex-terrorist, a journalist for the Jerusalem Post they were saying was a Palestinian journalist, and Khaleel Mohammed, who later apologized to CAIR for allowing himself to be tricked into participating in this “vile propaganda.” This is the same Khaleel Mohammed that allowed himself to be used against the Boston Muslim community in the JCRC/AJC/David Project’s bulldoze-the-mosque campaign. The DVD also had some Maronite chick with 80s style lipliner, that I suppose they were hoping would pass as Muslim.

The message was really unclear. Let’s say everything in the DVD was true. Then what? There was no recommended action. It was all very vague and sloppy. The only interesting part of the film was a music video by some rapper which was showing scenes of war and crying Muslim children, which undermined their whole point, because it was a really good song and it made it clear why Muslims might hate America and that if you were them you’d probably hate America too.

Really this DVD was a semi-psychotic paranoid admission of Jewish guilt. It actually resembled a fragmented dream of someone who is tortured by his conscience. They kept on using the same footage and the same commentators over and over again. They really didn’t try to make this good.

My husband, who used to attend their events, said this poor quality type of BORING low-intellect documentary is typical for the Aish haTorah types. It’s amazing they can keep anyone in the fold of Judaism. You’d have to have a lobotomy.

UPDATE

Now it becomes more clear what the Zionist groups hope will happen as a result of their distribution of their DVD. Pogroms against Muslims. People often ask, “Why don’t the Jews learn from the Holocaust?” History shows that not only did the Zionists help the Nazis to eradicate European Jewry, the Zionists actually studied Nazism in order to duplicate its practices, both in Occupied Palestine and in the United States.

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http://www.dailykos.com/storyonly/2008/9/28/203016/697/536/613742

Muslim Children Gassed at Dayton Mosque After “Obsession” DVD Hits Ohio
by Chris Rodda
Sun Sep 28, 2008 at 08:50:29 PM PDT
(From the diaries — kos)

On Friday, September 26, the end of a week in which thousands of copies of Obsession: Radical Islam’s War Against the West — the fear-mongering, anti-Muslim documentary being distributed by the millions in swing states via DVDs inserted in major newspapers and through the U.S. mail — were distributed by mail in Ohio, a “chemical irritant” was sprayed through a window of the Islamic Society of Greater Dayton, where 300 people were gathered for a Ramadan prayer service. The room that the chemical was sprayed into was the room where babies and children were being kept while their mothers were engaged in prayers. This, apparently, is what the scare tactic political campaigning of John McCain’s supporters has led to — Americans perpetrating a terrorist attack against innocent children on American soil.

· Chris Rodda’s diary :: ::

I read the story as reported by the Dayton Daily News, but this was after I had received an email written by a friend of some of the victims of these American terrorists. The matter of fact news report in the Dayton paper didn’t come close to conveying the horrific impact of this unthinkable act like the email I had just read, so I asked the email’s author for permission to share what they had written. The author was with one of the families from the mosque — a mother and two of the small children who were in the room that was gassed — the day after the attack occurred.

“She told me that the gas was sprayed into the room where the babies and children were being kept while their mothers prayed together their Ramadan prayers. Panicked mothers ran for their babies, crying for their children so they could flee from the gas that was burning their eyes and throats and lungs. She grabbed her youngest in her arms and grabbed the hand of her other daughter, moving with the others to exit the building and the irritating substance there.

“The paramedic said the young one was in shock, and gave her oxygen to help her breathe. The child couldn’t stop sobbing.

“This didn’t happen in some far away place — but right here in Dayton, and to my friends. Many of the Iraqi refugees were praying together at the Mosque Friday evening. People that I know and love.

“I am hurt and angry. I tell her this is NOT America. She tells me this is not Heaven or Hell — there are good and bad people everywhere.

“She tells me that her daughters slept with her last night, the little one in her arms and sobbing throughout the night. She tells me she is afraid, and will never return to the mosque, and I wonder what kind of country is this where people have to fear attending their place of worship?

“The children come into the room, and tell me they want to leave America and return to Syria, where they had fled to from Iraq. They say they like me, … , and other American friends — but they are too afraid and want to leave. Should a 6 and 7 year old even have to contemplate the safety of their living situation?

“Did the anti-Muslim video circulating in the area have something to do with this incident, or is that just a bizarre coincidence? Who attacks women and children?

“What am I supposed to say to them? My words can’t keep them safe from what is nothing less than terrorism, American style. Isn’t losing loved ones, their homes, jobs, possessions and homeland enough? Is there no place where they can be safe?

“She didn’t want me to leave her tonight, but it was after midnight, and I needed to get home and write this to my friends. Tell me — tell me — what am I supposed to say to them?”

When acting as a representative of Military Religious Freedom Foundation (MRFF), the 501(c)3 non-profit organization that I work for, I cannot engage in political activities. The distribution of Obsession, however, although a political campaign scheme, clearly crosses over into the mission of MRFF. So, I’m going to make two statements here — one in my capacity as MRFF’s Research Director, and another as an individual whose disgust at the vile campaign tactics of John McCain’s supporters completely boiled over when I opened up the email about children being gassed.

My statement as MRFF’s Research Director:

The presidential campaign edition of the Obsession DVD, currently being distributed by the Clarion Fund, carries the endorsement of the chair of the counter-terrorism department of the U.S. Naval War College, using the name and authority of an official U.S. military institution not only to validate an attack the religion of Islam, but to influence a political campaign. For these reasons, this endorsement has been included in MRFF’s second lawsuit against the Department of Defense, which was filed on September 25 in the Federal District Court in Kansas.

My opinion as an individual and thoroughly appalled human being:

John McCain has a moral obligation to publicly censure the Clarion Fund, the organization that produced Obsession and is distributing the DVDs; to denounce the inflammatory, anti-Muslim message of Obsession; and to do everything in his power to stop any further campaign activities by his supporters that have the potential to incite violence.

August 29, 2008

Reforming the Halal Food Economy

Filed under: Blogroll, Interfaith, Islam, Uncategorized — Tags: — mariahussain @ 8:44 pm

Halal Food Economy
Maria Hussain
http://www.halalpak.com/index.php?
option=com_content&task=view&id=39&Itemid=30

Because clean water is a require­ment of Islamic life, the early
Muslims took it as a duty as fard upon themselves to build huge
aqueducts that provided clean water to the people. In the same way,
Muslims today have an obligation to rework their supply network for
zabiha meat so that they can truly guarantee to the people that it
is halal and does not contain questionable by-products.

The American corporate infrastructure is neither adequate nor
responsible to ensure its citizens are fed in accordance with
Islamic guidelines. U.S. laws allow pork protein to be fed to cows,
and chicken meat to be fed to chick­ens. Fifteen percent of licensed
feed mills and thir­ty percent of unlicensed feed mills do not comply
with U.S. sterilization laws. The demand for nat­ural/organic meat
increases every year, with growing consumer education and alarm. A
CNN poll in March 2001 showed that two-thirds of Americans are
concerned about mad cow disease becoming a problem in this country.

Rasulallah (peace be upon him) prohibited eating the animal that
feeds on filth and drinking its milk (Abu Dawud). We must
restructure our food econ­omy to comply with the requirements of our
reli­gion in all its practical aspects, not merely the ritu­als, but
to meet the common, collective needs of the people. This is not
impossible, and it has to be done now.

Resolving This Crisis According to Soundvision.com’s report, “It May
Be Zabiha, But Is It Halal?” Dr. Ahmad Sakr sug­gests the only viable
solution to the unavailability of genuinely halal meat products and
pure foods is to establish farms that are run by Muslims who will
raise livestock on plant-based feed that con­tains no hormones,
preservatives, meat, blood, or any animal by-products whatsoever.

I can think of a far more efficient way to feed the Muslims than
waiting for the sons of today’s engi­neers and taxi drivers to grow
up and become farmers. Among the People of the Book are American
farmers who are still committed to maintaining ethical farming
standards. Because of this, they are struggling to survive. We need
to identify them and enter into mutually beneficial business
agreements with them.

Creating Muslim-Driven Supply and Demand

Relying on mainstream food suppliers, it is nearly impossible to get
organic meat in the U.S., zabiha or not. The present system of
industrial food pro­cessing requires a supplier to provide thousands
of heads of cattle at a time to fill the demand of American
supermarkets. Organic farmers find it difficult to gain a foothold
in the consumer market because it is impossible for small farms to
meet that type of demand. Although organic meat is not yet available
on the retail market, concerned per­sons who are determined to eat
all-natural have the option of forming co-ops. Co-operatives were
launched in this country 150 years ago.

This is how coops work. People pool their money together to buy in
bulk and save. A few families may split the price of a cow, lamb or
sheep. You can find thousands of organic and grass-fed live­stock
farms on the Internet. Most farmers will let you use their farm to
make the zabiha. They might also process and cut up the meat after
you have slaughtered it Islamically. On average, one cow makes six
hundred pounds of packaged beef. Thus, even if you had to drive some
distance, hire a Muslim butcher, and then truck the meat back home,
it could still be worth the cost. When enough people start bypassing
the distributor and getting their meat directly from the farmer, the
meat stores will start noticing they are losing busi­ness and
eventually they will be forced to start offering organic meat.

Mainstreaming a Muslim-Managed Industry

While forming coops are one possible solution to this vexing
problem, I have even higher hopes for a voluntary upgrade of the
entire halal meat industry to halal and tayyab, before consumers are
forced to boycott halal meat vendors. Smart busi­nessmen are always
interested in new ways to generate profits, and I sincerely hope
they will jump at this opportunity to get a corner on the organic
meat market before some non-Muslim conglomerate caters to the
demand. The only thing that can make it happen is community
education. As soon as rank-and-file Muslims realize their “halal”
meat is not gen­uinely halal, they will not be able to eat it and
will demand a change.

The Muslim business community would be uniquely suited for bring‑
ing quality organic meat to the population centers of the U.S. No
one else could do it as efficiently, as we already have an organized
distribution network of small halal meat stores throughout America.
It would not be that hard to switch suppliers to a traceable source
of cattle, free of preservatives, pesticides, animal feed by-
products, drugs and hormones. If the slaughterhouses saw the
advantage of buying, livestock only from organic certified farms, from today the organic farmers would commit to ser­vicing the halal meat industry, and with minimal bureaucratic red tape.

Islamic meat companies are not huge corporations. Our meat industry is decentralized, meaning one halal grocery store could, in theory, buy from a couple nearby grass-fed cattle farmers, rather than having to go through a distributor. A larger meat distributor could contract with a farm collective for his supply.

Family-owned farms already have a system in place where organic
farms pool their cattle to meet consumer demand. These collectives
will provide a steady supply of cattle for our smaller commer­cial
needs. Presently, an organic farm collective could probably supply
only ten head of cattle a day, but if the farmers got a sincere
commitment from the Muslims, they would be more than happy to
increase their output to feed all eight mil­lion of us.

Gary DeMoe, a Wisconsin cattle rancher I contacted, told me, “A
large and sustained market such as you are suggesting would get my
attention and favor, which means I would bend every possible effort
to supply it. Business is business.”

If all the Muslim consumers switched over to halal and tayyab
zabiha, the organic farmers would get the commercial base they need
to really start pro­ducing. The industry could go from one percent to
fifteen percent of the entire food industry virtually overnight. We
are talking about tens of billions of dollars potentially generated
by a collaborative effort between the Muslim community and the
organic farmers of America. It would be a huge blessing for the
entire economy, as well as the environment. I believe that Allah
will give us this advantage and more, if only we would start doing
things His way.

Establishing high-quality standards for halal meat should not just
be the dream of some fringe group of health food freaks and
religious fanatics. Grass-fed cows and sheep, and organic chickens
should be the standard of the halal industry. When Allah’s name
becomes associated with purity and ethical business practices, the
Muslims’ tarnished reputation will be restored. Many people, includ­
ing non-Muslims, will frequent our halal stores if the meat is
safer, tastier and healthier than what is available at the retail
supermarket. Some will drive long distances to buy organic meat.
Zabiha butchers and distributors should take courage and accept this
challenge, for Allah will make it easy for them.

July 23, 2008

Ask Maria: Marijuana?

Filed under: Blogroll — mariahussain @ 10:08 pm

Q: I tried out marijuana for a couple weeks then I stopped. While I was using it I didn’t know it was against islam. I quit and I was thinking that I might do it once every month but I found out it was against Islam and haven’t done it yet. What can I do to compensate for my sins?

A: Smoking anything is haram [forbidden] according to some scholars and makhruh [reprehensible] according to others. Most consider it a lesser sin than alcohol. The only punishment for getting drunk is if you go out in public and make a drunken display of yourself, your friends are supposed to beat you with their shoes (according to hadith). But for private sins like smoking or drinking there is no Islamic punishment or specific expiation, although in general, a good deed wipes out a bad deed. Healthwise, the best thing you can do is get some exercise to clear that tar out of your lungs. I congratulate you for giving it up; it’s a very expensive habit not to mention bad for your health. But don’t beat yourself up too much because in the middle ages, under Islamic rule, marijuana was used as an herbal medicine for many different ailments, and it was cooked into butter and made into sweets. In many Islamic countries, non-medicinal marijuana (hemp) is used to make rope, paper and cloth. You can even run your car on hemp fuel, it’s much better than corn as a source of fiber to produce ethanol.

During the time that Ali was Caliph, the Islamic empire extended into regions where marijuana was used. There was never any controls or punishment over growing or using marijuana because the Quran does not outlaw any plant. Nowadays people make fatwas right and left but in the old days, if the Quran didn’t specifically outlaw something it was considered a very serious sin to declare it as haram. However, that being said, it is very socially unacceptable among Muslims living in the west and so it is best to avoid it and keep your lungs in good shape. What I’d suggest as a good deed to wipe out your bad deed is, however much money you spent on the herb, donate that much or a bit more to charity. In fact Islamic Relief has a clinic in Afghanistan for rehabilitating drug addicts that you could donate to at irw.org

The Quranic verse usually quoted to justify outlawing marijuana is 5:90.

“O ye who believe! Intoxicants and gambling, (dedication of) stones, and (divination by) arrows, are an abomination of Satan’s handiwork; Eschew such (abomination) that ye may prosper.”

According to medieval scholars, drugs such as coffee or marijuana were considered “corrupting influences” and not “intoxicants.” Khamr is the term in the Quran and it literally means “covering up.” It is universally understood to apply to wine and liquor. Incidentally, both coffee and the act of smoking were introduced into the Islamic world after Columbus “discovered” America and Europeans started shipping tobacco and coffee to Turkey. The Muslims invented the water pipe still used today at that point. Prior to that, Muslims only ate or drank concoctions made with marijuana and other herbs.

Yet, just because something isn’t technically “haram” doesn’t mean an Islamic government can’t outlaw it. The Ottoman Empire used to hang people for smoking tobacco at one time, but people still refused to quit smoking. On the other hand, I heard the King of Jordan has his own private marijuana garden.

Ask Maria: Hitting your kids?

Filed under: Blogroll — mariahussain @ 8:22 pm

Q: What does islam say about hitting a disobedient child?

A: You sometimes have to hit them, there is a hadith that says you have to hit your kids if they won’t do their salah after the age of ten. But the Islamic rules of corporal punishment are: you can’t hit them in the face, you can’t hit them hard enough to leave a mark, and you can’t do it in front of other people. You have to clearly explain why they are being punished. You have to be consistent with what you expect them to do and what will happen if they don’t do it.

The kind of hitting where it’s just the parent venting his aggression because he had a bad day is absolutely not allowed. I noticed some Muslim mothers do this and it really bothers me, because they also do things like make empty threats like, “If you don’t behave we are never going to come back to your cousin’s house ever again.” So the kid is just being trained to become a brat that distrusts his mother.

With my kids, I tell them the correct behavior three times. The second time they get a warning that says if you don’t do what I said after I said it three times, you will be punished. That way, when they choose to be bad, the third time, they know what is coming. In fact, if I just say 1, 2, 3 they usually jump into bed or whatever it is they are supposed to do. It’s not a matter of being surprised by their mother’s temper.

However, I usually prefer to use time outs, one minute for every year of the kid’s age. The only time a light spanking is appropriate is for a serious offense like a bald faced lie, or hitting a smaller child. If you do it more than once a month it no longer is useful as a punishment because they’ll learn to grin and bear it, but in that case you are just training your kid to view you as a mean person. You have to make it clear that you don’t want to do this. And it’s only for serious offenses.

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